I turn THIRTY next month. I'm sorry, what? I've watched two good friends turn 30, and my day is quickly approaching. I'm not excited, to be honest. But I'm rarely excited about my birthday. Another year has gone by without much progress. Is it my fault? Meant to be? I dive deep into a depression when my birthday approaches; it's sorta the worst. Last year, I was really under the weather. To the point of my Mother assumed I was wildly hungover at dinner. Rude.
I recently stumbled upon two articles entitled, "30 Lessons Most 30 Somethings (Probably) Know" and "30 Lessons I Learned Before Turning 30." As I was reading through these pieces of advice and wisdom, I found that I had already adopted some of them into my life over the last ten years or so. I was so in tune with these articles that I forwarded it to my "BFF Chat" girls to also absorb. Ashley and I also went over them at the gym during cardio. haaa.
The point of these articles, in my opinion, is that each and every one of us has an area that needs work or could be tweaked. I felt validated, yet lacking, after reading. Personally, I don't trust most people and have a hard time letting down my emotional wall. I'm the "funny" one in the group because that is easier than sharing how I genuinely feel at times. I cannot stand being vulnerable. I was hurt in the past, blah blah... but I chose to never work on that. Not great, right? But I digress. I have the points that stuck out to me the most below.
- If a friend kindly calls you out on your BS in the name of saving the friendship, hold on tight. True friends utilize honesty over people-pleasing.
- Set and enforce your boundaries even when it feels mean. You are not meant to life this life as a doormat, so stand up for yourself.
- It can take one minute or years to know you’ve met a soul twin. Always trust your gut – if they feel special, then they probably are.
- Don’t stop looking until you find that thing that lights you up. It’s either a HELL YES or it’s a no – and the yes’s take time.
- Go to the birthday party. Being a flake sucks. Showing up is usually worth it, even if it takes effort.
- Say what you mean. Dodging plans this weekend because you’re “busy”? Are you really busy? No, you’re actually just feeling a little down and wanting to stay in. You’re allowed to say that, and chances are, the honesty will be a breath of fresh air to everyone.
- We are damned if we do and damned if we don’t. Forget about pleasing society. Please yourself.
- People who reject you are doing a favor. Instead of fighting for their affection for years to come, they cut you loose so you could find people who don’t have their heads up their ass.
- Educating yourself on politics is essential. You’re not 21, so the “ugh it’s just too negative”song and dance isn’t cute. Get to know the parties, the policies, and the figures. Find out what you stand for. And then vote for it.
- Spend as much time as possible doing things that are autotelic (finding joy regardless of the outcome). Your life will be much less stressful.
- The old saying “you are the average of the five people you spend the most time with” is exclamation point TRUE! Always ask, “does this person bring up my average?”
Read these articles and see what applies to you.
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